I spent the first four years of motherhood in survival mode. I'd pretty much wake up and spend the day feeling like I was treading water. My work hours bled into my home life and I constantly struggled to find a way to balance my home and work lives.
Then one night I once again couldn't sleep. As I stared at the ceiling at 2 in the morning running through my list for the next day, I suddenly questioned- What am I doing? This wasn't the way I'd envisioned motherhood or my time with my children. I wanted to enjoy these years- not feel like a zombie "just getting through." That began "My Busy Detox".
I'm not going to lie and say it's been an easy epiphany or even something I've completely mastered. But, it's now in the forefront of my being.
I'm training myself to say no. I don't need to be the Room Mom or attend every work dinner or meeting in person.
I've reevaluated my children's activities and commitments. We have a new rule that they can only participate in two activities at a time. Once they're booked they have to wait until a season or class ends before beginning another.
We don't double book- if there's two birthday parties or events scheduled for a day, we choose one and send our regrets to the other instead of overtaxing ourselves to attend both.
I grocery shop online using Amazon Pantry and Instacart. There's been a few times I've regretted relinquishing control, like the time I got ten BUNCHES of bananas instead of ten bananas, or the time I got a carton of cracked eggs. But for the most part, it's been well worth the delegation!
The biggest change is I've let go of the idea of perfection. Instead, I've accepted that it's ok to be good enough. I don't need to be Mom of the Year, I just need to be the best mom I can be. And if that means my house is a mess and my kid's in wrinkled clothes, but having a blast as we play a board game together- I'm ok with that.
Live your life with love and be real!- Joyana