I spent the first four years of motherhood in survival mode. I'd pretty much wake up and spend the day feeling like I was treading water. My work hours bled into my home life and I constantly struggled to find a way to balance my home and work lives.
Then one night I once again couldn't sleep. As I stared at the ceiling at 2 in the morning running through my list for the next day, I suddenly questioned- What am I doing? This wasn't the way I'd envisioned motherhood or my time with my children. I wanted to enjoy these years- not feel like a zombie "just getting through." That began "My Busy Detox".
I'm not going to lie and say it's been an easy epiphany or even something I've completely mastered. But, it's now in the forefront of my being.
I'm training myself to say no. I don't need to be the Room Mom or attend every work dinner or meeting in person.
I've reevaluated my children's activities and commitments. We have a new rule that they can only participate in two activities at a time. Once they're booked they have to wait until a season or class ends before beginning another.
We don't double book- if there's two birthday parties or events scheduled for a day, we choose one and send our regrets to the other instead of overtaxing ourselves to attend both.
I grocery shop online using Amazon Pantry and Instacart. There's been a few times I've regretted relinquishing control, like the time I got ten BUNCHES of bananas instead of ten bananas, or the time I got a carton of cracked eggs. But for the most part, it's been well worth the delegation!
The biggest change is I've let go of the idea of perfection. Instead, I've accepted that it's ok to be good enough. I don't need to be Mom of the Year, I just need to be the best mom I can be. And if that means my house is a mess and my kid's in wrinkled clothes, but having a blast as we play a board game together- I'm ok with that.
Live your life with love and be real!- Joyana
It was one of those days where my kids were driving me nuts and I had no energy left. All I wanted to do was turn on the TV to keep them occupied while I collapsed on the couch. But it was a gorgeous day outside and instead I forced myself to rally. "Let's go outside and play!"
Was it perfect? No. Did they take out literally every toy from the garage? Yes. Did they argue over taking turns in the car? Yes. Did I have to sing a bazillion verses of "There are Bubbles in the Air" while blowing bubbles? Yes.
Was I glad I did it? Most definitely.
Sometimes the hardest part is digging deep to find the energy. That's where the faking part comes in. Once I plastered that smile on and got us outside I soon realized I actually was enjoying myself. I'd forgotten my exhaustion.
Instead I was enjoying the sun beating down on my back. I was laughing with my son over how bad my chalk drawings were. I was enjoying my daughter chasing after bubbles and clapping her hands for me to sing the bubble song again. I would have missed all of that if I'd given in to my initial impulse to collapse.
Now, I'm not saying it will always work out this way. There are days where getting us outside ends in disaster. The very next day did, in fact, when my son refused to let his sister do anything and she kept running away as only a toddler can. We only lasted ten minutes.
But, at least I gave us the chance to experience that magical fun. That's all I can do. And another day we will again.
What is a Health Coach and what is the purpose of seeing one?
Think of a Health Coach as a guide on your journey to better health and happiness.
Unlike dietitians or doctors, a health coach's role is not to focus on one sole element or symptom of unbalanced health.
For instance, If you're trying to lose weight, we're not going to just teach you to count calories or keep a food journal. Instead, we're going to dig for the root of your issue. We'll teach you to deconstruct your cravings, examine your moods, lifestyle, stress levels, sleep habits, and relationships and look for WHY you're having difficulty maintaining a healthy weight.
The hope is that by focusing on your body and lifestyle as a WHOLE- we can help you not only focus on the individual element of your health you'd like to improve, but can also improve your general quality of life overall. And that my friends, is why I use my motto- Real Food, Real Life- Real Joy!
So, what's stopping you? Ready to take that journey? Keep a look our for my upcoming workshops or try a free consultation today!